Is Potty Training Boys Harder Than Potty Training Girls?

Have you always heard, “potty training boys is harder than potty training girls“? This was definitely something I had heard once I became a mama. There was always someone or something on the internet that said boys were harder to potty train than girls.

Once I had my son and the time came for me to start potty training him, I couldn’t help but have that thought in my head. After potty training my son and my daughter, I discovered, potty training boys is not harder than potty training girls.

From my experience, the outcome for a boy or a girl, is actually based off of how you start.

In this article, I am going to to explain my experience with potty training my son and daughter and answer the question many parents are asking. “Is potty training boys harder than potty training girls“? 

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I was blessed to have a boy and girl, which taught me a few things about potty training. Here are some differences I have experienced when it comes to potty training a boy and girl.

Differences between potty training a boy and girl

*These differences are of course based off of my two kiddos and they may differ from your own kids*


  • Stand to pee – This is a pretty obvious difference between a boy and girl, but some parents in my experience have asked, “should my son sit or stand to pee?”. I personally started out having my son sit on the potty, but eventually started having him stand to pee. Once he started to stand, he began to tell me when he needed to go.
  • Motivated by physical reward – My son enjoyed my excitement to get him to potty, but it did not actually cause him to go. After a couple of weeks of trial and error, I discovered he was motivated by food.  A few moms at the time, suggested I reward with candy, but I didn’t like that idea because I didn’t allow him to eat candy. So, instead, gave him a piece of blueberry protein bar that he only got if he pooped and that did the trick!
  • Structured and to the point – My son was not very interested in potty training when we first started because I didn’t know what I was doing at the time to be honest. But, once I started a structured routine, he was all for it.


  •  Go with the flow –  The first time I placed my daughter on the potty seat at just 14 months, she peed and pooped! To say I was shocked is an understatement. She surprised herself when it happened but she did not cry and from there, our potty training process had begun.  
  • Want lots of praise – My daughter loves praise and she especially loved it when we first started our potty training journey. I didn’t have to reward her with food or anything else for that matter. All she wanted was praise and lots of love.
  • Enjoys an exciting routine – Anything that involves music, my daughter is all for it. So, I made up a fun potty song every time she sat on the potty to encourage her to go. I then made up another song just for washing hands. She and my son really enjoy it! There’s also this really cool potty watch that will play a song as a reminder, when its time to use the potty.  Adding music to her potty routine really keeps things fun and exciting.
  • Easily distracted – When the time came for my daughter to do most of the bathroom routine (pull her pants up/down, get on the toilet, flush the toilet, etc) herself, she would easily get distracted and still does today. She knows what to do but sometimes she’s so excited from singing and dancing, I have to remind her what to do next.
We had to make a stop on a road trip so baby girl could potty. She was telling us when she needed to go at 22 months!

I am personally a firm believer in early potty training and have seen great results from starting early. I started my son at 19 months and my daughter at 14 months.

Never with the intent to have them potty trained over a weekend or anything. But to get them familiar with the potty training process at a more gradual approach.

My daughter is only 27 months and is fully nap time and nighttime trained and has been since 22 months. Both of my kids were potty trained by the age of two and I owe it all to making the decision to start early. 

Potty training is simply a milestone that every child has to go through and he/she will learn at their own pace. My daughter actually caught on to the potty training process a lot faster than my son, and this was a result of how I started her.

I started potty training my daughter earlier than I did with my son and had her on a great routine from the start. Meaning, she achieved the potty training milestone faster than her brother because of the way I prepared her to learn.

With my son, he was my first child, I had no experience with potty training, and didn’t start with him as early as my daughter. I also did not have him on a structured routine in the beginning. Had I start potty training him the same way I did my daughter, I believe the outcome could have been a lot different. 

So, I have concluded, it was harder to potty train my son because of the way I started the process, but It had nothing to do with him being a boy.

My sweet little humans! Ages 4 and 2 and full of energy!

As a first time parent, it can be hard to admit you are the cause of something not going as planned when it comes to your child. But, it’s always wise to look back at the situation and learn from it.  

Going through the process of potty training a boy and girl has taught me; boys learn how to potty train at their own rate based off of how we teach them and the same goes for girls.

Hopefully this has answered the question and makes since. Feel free to comment below with your experiences on this topic!

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